Author Archives: captaincliff

With Apologies to Humpty Dumpty: The Myth of Fixing People   It takes an extra long time for a psychologist/social worker/psychotherapist or “savior”  type person (code for codependent) to realize that you can’t really “fix” anybody. You can help them and you … Continue reading →

With apologies to Game of Thrones addicts (I personally don’t over-imbibe), success in politics has historically relied upon barbarian despotic leader dark triad like attributes such as bribery, intimidation, assassination, corruption, and big time power-wielding often reflected in ones ability to use special access, back room … Continue reading →

Notwithstanding my love of the run on sentence, My Facebook friend Wendy has challenged me to write a 300 word max essay utilizing the following words she randomly pulled out of her ass: distended, lugubrious, flaccid, notwithstanding. The Dump I wade into … Continue reading →

  “Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won’t come in.” ― Isaac Asimov “If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us … Continue reading →

I just got back from a mini-high school reunion in Highland Park, Illinois. It’s been 45 long years since I left that cushy upscale suburban enclave near Chicago to seek fame and fortune elsewhere. I returned at age 62 (soon … Continue reading →

Submitted for publication to:  The Good Men Project  9/29/16 How To Be A Real Manly Man by Cliff Mazer, Ph.D.   I am a certified sex therapist who purposely de-emphasizes sexual behavior and sexual performance in my clinical practice. Instead I … Continue reading →

Introduction: Lately there’s been a lot of talk about toxic masculinity and male privilege. Old school narcissists with tiny hands like Donald Trump are as bad an example of mature masculinity as Anthony Weiner who cant seem to keep his … Continue reading →

“Shit happens” is a common colloquial expression that many people intuitively understand and can relate to. However, far fewer people go on to inquire, “well, why did that particular shit happen?” Bear with me on this question because I suspect … Continue reading →

  Horrible and crazy shit happens so often that we are basically habituated to it. We see it as “normal” or just the way the world is. Often it becomes the current “headline” news for the day whether it is … Continue reading →

  The world is unusually nuts right now. I realize I’m not saying anything people dont already know or haven’t thought about already. It’s just something that I feel compelled to say “out loud” or I might go even more … Continue reading →